So, friends, have you done it? You’ve had seven days to do it. Most of you probably have—written out your New Years goals, right?
This was a yearly “must” for my sisters and I, for years! We were meticulous and, there were short and long-term goals; categories and by what date we should have accomplished them. I’d always finish before the 31st of December, no buts or if’s about it! Perfectionism flowed through my blood! It pumped me up everyday better than CPR! Life has inevitably slowed me down; disease and age have had their sway, too. However, unless WISDOM wasn’t part of this mixture of daily living, I’d probably be making detailed lists up to this day. Don’t take me wrong, I’m all for goals, stretching oneself to greater heights, chasing new dreams and, reaching brighter horizons.
Life has not only paced my race but has taught me and indentured in me vital lessons. The one looming lesson came from none other than that special lady I’ve been telling you about, Grandma. This lesson has had application in life in diverse areas. Naturally, it came in an aphorism.
This could seem a skosh controversial but give me a minute. She would remind us “El que abarca mucho, apreta poco.” [He who takes in, includes, gathers or monopolizes too much, gets to squeeze, or embraces little]. Sometimes we try to take on too much justifying it with some very convincing reasons, too!
Goals are wonderful and definitely have their place in life but, when they take over the basics, the staples of healthy and fulfilling living, we’ve gone beyond the mark! We’ll probably accomplish less than the desired. This was always my slippery slope. I didn’t stretch in wise increments but rather, tore and pulled every muscle to the breaking point! (Ego does that.)
This was a tough lesson for me to internalize, not because I was in competition with my sisters but with my false notions about what achieving was all about. Realizing a desired goal have no “age,” or date, at least not for goals of inestimable value. LOVE, FAITH, HOPE, TRUST, FREEDOM, [for example], not one of these have an expiration date, a specific age or graduating expectancy.
When we become greedy even in our righteous and good desires, we lend ourself to the probability of becoming unhappy, unsatisfied, envious, unkind, and often, throwing in the towel. We ultimately “squeeze too little,” as Grandma taught. What would be the point to that!
Some of us need to see everything neatly written out, organized and some don’t really care about keeping a detailed planner. As for me, for the last ten years, three goals gather and embrace my happiness, in fact, my sense of fulfillment is no longer affected whether I do or can accomplish my goal. It is the stretching and reaching, that process, which makes us a winner. I rejoice in that destination! However, it isn’t because I’ve grabbed the brass ring or reached the end of my self-imposed finish line but, because I’ve seen the blossoming of another awaiting possibility. It encourages, beckons and waves the summoning banner KEEP MOVING FORWARD!
I do not believe that life was designed to DO or BE everything in this life span, not for one-self or anyone. (Thank goodness, or I’d never want to see another dawn!) Can you conjure how sweet and fulfilling an individual hug can penetrate your whole being? We all like, need, and deserve individual hugs, don’t we? Why…? Because we are only ONE; that singular moment should be fully experienced, claimed and LIVED in all its glory as our FIRST kiss! What do you think, my friend?
So, my friends, gather your ageless dreams enthusiastically and happily, pick those sparkling stars that have been calling your name, take a handful of moon dust, and add a few cheery cherubs to keep you dreaming and aiming UPWARD.